Coming of Age for Boys

This three-week program challenges boys to develop into solid young men, like heroes in their own life journeys. 

"Our son entered 7th grade quite changed. He was more self-confident with a quiet, inner strength. He showed more leadership by sharing what he had done in class. I think his Journey had immediate impact on him in these ways and will have long-lasting impact as a strong memory and a strong growth experience. He learned to trust himself in new ways." --Recent program parent

For thousands of years, cultures around the world have relied on the wisdom of intentional rites of passage to awaken the mature masculine spirit within young boys. By overcoming various ordeals, initiates bring back the inner resources and external skills that the community depends on for its continued vitality.

In the spirit of these ancient traditions, the Coming of Age for Boys program offers youth an opportunity to live, learn, and laugh in a supportive community of male mentors and peers. Far away from video games, mass media, and pressures of modern society, life slows down and begins to take on new meaning.

As participants sleep under star-filled skies, hike among ancient cedars, and dip in cold mountain streams, the rich inner life of a boy awakens. At journey’s end, each will bring home the exciting and important story of his own adventure, a greater sense of self-awareness, and new gifts to share with his family and his community.

This program runs in two sessions during the summer of 2012. If you would like more information about the second session, July 29 - August 19, please click here. 

Family Participation

The initiate’s family plays an important role in the Coming of Age Journey. At the conclusion of each 3-week adventure, parents and guardians take part in a program of incorporation. During this weekend event, parents and young people alike will have the opportunity to see one another with new eyes. Together in this way, they breathe new life into existing relationships, and explore the possibilities of what it means to be a family in the 21st century, with a new family member who is no longer a boy, but a young man.

Participants work together during a high-ropes challenge at Waterhouse Center.

Outcomes of Coming of Age for Boys Improved self-confidence Skills and insight into teamwork Understanding and taking responsibility Ability to listen to intuition Leadership skills Improved physical strength and personal resolve Knowledge of natural history of Northwest terrain Exposure to Low-impact camping techniques Understanding of a healthy and appropriate path to manhood Completion of a transformative rite of passage

Example Itinerary Week 1: Coming of Age for Boys participants, their families (no younger siblings please!) and our staff participate in a send-off ceremony at the Journeys basecamp -- this happens concurrently with the Coming of Age for Girls send-off. This activity is soon followed, for participants, by intentional community building, a Ropes Challenge course, and a 5- to 6-day backpacking trip in Olympic National Park during which wilderness, leadership and teamwork skills will be taught and practiced.

Participants enjoy a story told by a mentor as dinner is being prepared.

Week 2: Participants will transfer to the Washington Coast in preparation for their 24-hour solo vigil after hiking in to a chosen beach and setting up an extended stay camp. During this time participants will be involved in nature explorations, expressive art projects, journalling and ceremony. After the 24-hour solo vigil is completed participants will hike back to the vehicles and transfer to a location for a celebration and Council of Elders.

Week 3: Participants will return to our basecamp and celebrate their incredible journey and the beginning of young adulthood. The young men and mentors will participate in a Sweat Lodge and prepare for Parent Incorporation Weekend. The final two days of the trip will be spent with participants and families creating a family covenant to reflect the privileges and responsibilities of the young man. 

Financial aid may be available. Please visit our Scholarship page for more information.

Please help us spread the word about our fabulous adventures for youth! Download a flier about this program to share with your community. Post a copy in your favorite coffee shop, community center, grocery store, etc. Or email a copy to someone you know who may be interested in our programs.